As a youth, I refrained from exposing my attraction to females. I couldn't help fearing that many people might vilify me and do me dirty, and how badly it could affect my mental health. And so, I felt it was safer to only be open about my attraction to males.
ALSO: Back on the old Sprousefreaks site, I wanted other members to know I'm bi, but I was hesitant about disclosing it. I thought I was the only bi female in the Sprouse fandom. And, I worried that I might get a ton of backlash after revealing my sexuality.
When I was younger, I had a sole preference for females. I was extremely mesmerized by the bombshell physique. I experienced eroticism and orgasms whenever I saw a bombshell or more fully nude, topless, bottomless or scantily clad in one or more pictures, magazines, videos or movies. I often spent some of my leisure time fantasizing about female erotica. I didn't even dream of being romantically involved with a man, as I wasn't attracted to the male physique at the time. And I had been so secretive about all this.
As I grew older, I became a lot more attracted to males than I ever was before, while still being attracted to females. I've been attracted to males with handsome faces, slender to average build physique, and little to zero body hair. I even developed the hots for males with long hair, and even males who wear makeup and cross-dress. I also started fantasizing about male erotica during my leisure time. And, like I mentioned before, I definitely wasn't so secretive about my attraction to males.
There were times when I felt so alone and so ashamed of my sexuality. I've felt so weird and so awkward about having the hots for females. I've also felt alien about being sexually attracted to two genders. Back then, I didn't know who I could connect with in this instance. Besides, I was being raised a Catholic. And so, I even tried to convert to heterosexuality.
But, as time passed, I learned these important lessons: • I didn't choose to be bisexual, I was only born this way. • Bisexuality is not a phase, nor is it a sin. • Bisexuality is real and valid. • Bisexual people exist and are valid. • Bisexual rights are human rights. • I should be happy with myself and proud of who I am, not ashamed of how anyone else sees me. • I've got the right and deserve to live my life authentically. • Love has no gender. • Love is love. • I may be fortunate enough to meet other bisexuals, other members of the LGBTQ+ community, and even cisgender/heterosexual people who are LGBTQ+ supporters.
Now I feel so fortunate, blessed and grateful to have met other bisexuals, other members of the LGBTQ+ community, and of course cisgender/heterosexual people who are LGBTQ+ supporters. 😁
Today I'm a proud bisexual woman. 💗💜💙
I'm genuinely happy for Lili that she's finally found the courage to publicly come out as bisexual. Plus, it's great that she has pride in her bisexuality. 😀
I'm sure she's become an even greater inspiration to other bisexual females all around the world. ✨
FUN FACT: She did a liplock with Camila Mendes on Riverdale. This was during Episode 1 of Season 1, during the scene in which Betty and Veronica try out for the River Vixens (Riverdale High's cheerleading team). This Beronica kiss is one of my favorite scenes! 😍🥰
SIDE NOTE: I would never invalidate someone's declaration or story when they've finally come out of the closet or their shell. It had taken them so much time to find the courage to come out and open up. Just because they had never publicly shown their like or love for or interest or pride in something, doesn't mean they've never been actually into it. They just didn't have the courage to be open about it, fearing how other people might react to it. Nobody likes or wants to get vilified or mistreated, because it makes them feel worthless and miserable. And I've been there.
Last Edit: Oct 17, 2020 22:35:49 GMT -2 by Rikki Jo
Lili Reinhart opened up about why she didn't want to come out while dating Cole Sprouse
The actress first came out publicly in June, and now she's explaining why she waited.
While it seemed like it came out of nowhere at the time, Lili Reinhart's coming out as bisexual in June was actually a bit more considered than you might have first thought. In a new episode of the LGBTQ&A podcast, Reinhart opened up about her reasons for waiting until she was single to come out, and yes, part of it was due to her relationship with her ex-boyfriend Cole Sprouse.
ICYMI, Reinhart came out publicly via an Instagram story promoting an LGBTQ+ Black Lives Matter protest that she was attending in Los Angeles. "Although I've never announced it publicly before, I am a proud bisexual woman," she wrote on her Instagram story. At the time, there were rumours that the Riverdale co-stars had split, but nothing had been confirmed at the time.
In the new podcast episode, Reinhart shared that she was actually "afraid" to come out, having experienced biphobia and people dismissing her sexuality as a "phase". "I didn't want people to tell me that I was lying to get attention or something," she said. "And so I just kept my mouth shut."
"I think that's why I didn't come out as bisexual until I was not in a relationship anymore," Reinhart explained. "Because it's easy for people to question, 'Oh, but you're with a man that's straight.' It's like, well, Anna Paquin is married to a man, but she is bisexual." For the record, nobody should need to be in a certain type of relationship to justify or validate their sexuality, but we can see how it sometimes feels easier to defend other people's personal lives than your own.
She also explained that another reason she was reluctant to come out was due to people misunderstanding or questioning her relationship with Sprouse. "I didn't want to put my ex [Sprouse] in a position, it seems like it would have been a little strange to come out when I was in a hetero relationship," she shared. "It just seemed, I don't know, maybe a little bit like I was looking for something else while I was in the relationship."
Sprouse confirmed in their split in a bittersweet Instagram post, sharing that they separated in January before splitting for good in March. "I didn't really think about coming out until after I was not in a relationship anymore," Reinhart shared, "It just felt more organic that way."
As for her post-coming out experience? Well, it sounds like it's been pretty positive. "I did have a couple of ladies sliding into my DMs which I thought was funny, but also flattering," she shared on the podcast. "It was interesting to see the difference in my DMs after I came out, which was a nice little surprise... And also just like, I hate to say it, [there were] more quality human beings."